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Vamika deserves privacy

Recently Virat Kohli and Anushka Sharma’s daughter Vamika was photographed during the third one day international between India and South Africa. Soon, afterwards, the toddler’s pictures started trending on social media. Anushka Sharma issued a statement that she was caught off guard and failed to realize that the cameras were pointing on her. While many people requested privacy for the couple and asked for the photos to be not shared on social media, others were less slightly less forgiving. They felt that Anushka shouldn’t have brought Vamika to the stadium amidst the glare of so many cameras.

This debate raises an important question of privacy. It is not about who is wrong or who is right as there will always be things in the grey area. The point is can we not as a society develop an aligned understanding of what is socially acceptable. It is understood that Anushka should have been more careful (because she wanted privacy for her child), but can we not accord her the luxury of being free from the constant fear that her child’s privacy will be invaded and let her enjoy a normal life. What is wrong if she chooses to walk out in front of the cameras and ask not to be clicked. Is it too much of an ask from the media? Why can’t the media develop a conscience? May be Anushka wasn’t logical but why do we always need the reinforcement of logic to do things that somebody has requested. Are we using logic or lack thereof to further our own agenda?

My problem is with the need of logic with people. People always want logic. They talk logic. They value logic. They think an argument or need, or a request is wrong if it is not logical. I think, this need of logic is wrong. What we need is not logic but compassion and empathy. We need to understand that at times people let their guard down, and that we shouldn’t look at it as an opportunity. It is not an opportunity to capitalize, it is a moment where you can show compassion to the individual. It is the time you can prioritize empathy and love over logic.

The online addiction

Today I am going to reflect on the growing addiction of spending time online. The growth of digitization has provided everything at our fingertips. I have personally experienced the urge to buy things that I do not need from popular e commerce sites. And this urge does not go away on its own, it only goes away through motivated actions. You have to work hard to get over it like any other form of addiction. I personally tend to spend several hours scrolling through these websites searching for products that I think I need, and then add them to the cart, only to ponder hard later about their utility. I try hard to find excuses to justify the potential purchase, looking for a reason to give in to that buying urge. At times, I manage to decipher that it is all trap and I close the website. However, at times, I do go through the purchase and end up with the things that I do not need.

Spending time over YouTube is also a similar experience. Watching videos after videos without any purpose. Watching even when you don’t want to, and not being able to snap out of that viewing. If this all sounds familiar to you, then you would agree with me about taking concrete actions to stop this habit.

How bad is online addiction?

Though spending time online appears a perfectly normal endeavor, however, when I try to look for the opportunity loss in it, I find it huge. What troubles me is that you never realize how better off you could have been without it. You do not even know what you are losing because the loss is the lack of growth. I feel the most valuable commodity that we have is time and we seem to care least about how we are using it. Even smart individuals are in a dilemma about using their time in the most efficient way. They think that they would fall behind (so to speak) if they do not remain updated with the goings on in the online world and thus fall prey to the information overload. It is a catch it or lose it situation, we are made to believe. My experience is that most people are gullible nomads in the online world, and they are being used or lured by people who create digital experiences.

An average person spends a huge amount of time surfing net, watching videos on YouTube, and surfing e commerce sites. And all of this is happening because he has nothing else to do. Please understand I am not talking about people who come online to solve a problem. I am talking about people who spend time online. The concept of “spending time” should be reserved to offline world because that is still the real and more fulfilling world. The online world is a world that is meant to solve real world problems. We must use social media to grow and not become a commodity ourselves.

What change should we bring to our online experience?

We must ensure that we are leveraging online world to solve problems. By solving a problem, we might mean learning an online course, gaining perspective, watching informative videos, buying things that we need, connecting where we need to. Different people can moderate their behavior differently. We just need to ensure that the online world must be driven by our needs, and that it shouldn’t drive our needs. Let’s create clear segregation between these two worlds. And let’s give a clear priority to the real world.

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Everything that is wrong with diversity

I recently read an article about Priyanka Chopra saying that some north easterner should have played Marry Kom instead of her in the movie. Some people said it is very brave of her to have acknowledged it publicly. Even when the movie was released, people had raised questions about the casting of the movie. They felt the casting reeked of racism. Notwithstanding that, the film was a huge success.

What troubles me?

What I don’t understand is why people talk good but don’t do good when they have an opportunity. Is it not convenient to say somebody else should have done it instead of not doing it and paving way for someone else? However, is this clinging on to convenience wrong? The question is, why would anyone on earth let go of a great opportunity. Are we born to always make sacrifices and pave way for the less privileged? Even if we do that (make sacrifices), who determines if the opportunity has gone to the deserving. Had the role gone to a north easterner, what was the guarantee that she too wouldn’t have been privileged in her own circle. Are we trying to suggest that regional cinema (regardless of the state) is a perfect merit-driven-talent-recognizing industry? Also, was Priyanka Chopra (at the time of that movie) successful enough to let go of a great script. Wouldn’t she have betrayed herself by doing so had she made the sacrifice. The choice with us is always simple, whoever gets the fish, eats it. And it is perfectly fine if they eat a lot and a lot. They can later say that they should have shown a bigger heart, but at the time of actual doing, not sacrificing is perfectly fine. And why is her acknowledgment being praised? Why some people jump on this pseudo concept of forced diversity and inclusion when in the actuality every human being is hungry for success.

The concept of movies is simple. Actors are cast on their ability to make a film successful. Not to serve any other purpose. The director of the movie felt that Priyanka Chopra was the right choice, so he bet his money on her. He wanted to earn money, so he hired a star. Had he hired someone else, he would have made less money, or the movie would have flopped. He went after success and it is absolutely fair.

Is there anything wrong with Priyanka acknowledging it?

There is nothing wrong, it just seems to suggest that our actions and words don’t align. And it is perfectly fine if they don’t. Priyanka Chopra has become who she has become by utilizing and grabbing every opportunity on her way. She didn’t just settle for Bollywood, she went and achieved success in Hollywood. She has the hunger for success, and she shouldn’t lose that hunger and start making sacrifices because it is what is expected of her (or from every successful person). There is this underlying expectation that successful people should sacrifice so that others can benefit. This notion has been glorified and is the cornerstone of all such debates. Did Priyanka Chopra rely on someone else to give her all the success on a platter. Priyanka made her own way. In a Bollywood that was fascinated with white skin, she made her way and conquered it. Despite all the odds she made it.

So, is the system always fair?

Off course not. The system is tilted. Few people make more money. Few industries make more money. Few countries make more money. It is never perfect. Successful people can indeed change the system through their acts. However, let’s not determine what, when, and how they should do it. It’s only you who should determine when you should become a giver and in what way. Let’s not put a moral baggage of sacrifice on successful people or a moral baggage of accepting things in hindsight. Also, why the onus of bringing change is always on stars. Audience can choose not to watch movies if they find them unfair, but apparently their collective conscience remains unaffected.

Should Priyanka Chopra not give back to Bollywood?

She should if she wants. But let’s not judge her only on the grounds of what she gives back. Let her run after more success. Let her grab more opportunities. Let her be selfish. Let her earn more and more and more money. Her becoming successful (however she defines success) is also bringing glory and global acceptance to Bollywood. Isn’t she becoming successful a reform in itself? Has her success not already fueled change in Bollywood, and dare I say Hollywood? And with regards to reforms and changes that we need in Bollywood, it’s a collective effort and the audience should be the driver above anyone else. Once we (the audience) start making sacrifices, things will fall in place.

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How to deal with stress?

Use the following strategies to cope with stressful situations. Please note that these are personal observations and are not backed by any medical justification. They just seem to work for me.

Strategies to cope with stress:

  • Meditation: Simple breath awareness seems to help. Please avoid rigorous pranayama techniques such as Bhastrika or Kapalbhati. They might exacerbate the stress.
  • Exercising: Exercising doesn’t have to be strenuous. We underestimate the importance of getting out of the bed early and going out for a walk or jog. It really uplifts your mood and get you out of the rut.
  • Eating good food: Can you eat a desert or ice-cream and be stressed afterwards. Good food can really help.
  • Watching horror movies: Watching horror movies might be linked to reduction in stress. It might bring down your stress levels by making you scared.
  • Progressive muscle relaxation: Facial expressions such as frowning, sulking, clenching fists, grinding teeth seem to help you get out of a tough situation. However, use them judiciously.
  • Crying: Crying or mimicking crying seems to offer some help.
  • Splurging: Spending money seems to be therapeutic.
  • Fixing things: Doing anything that has immediate gratification seems to help. It might be solving a problem, fixing a broken thing etc.
  • Breaking things: Breaking things can actually help release tension.
  • Not pretending to be sane: Pretense can add to stress. Accept that you are stressed and accept that it is fine if everyone knows that you are stressed. It’s okay to let them know that you are going through it.
  • Making a bad face: Not sure exactly why but making a bad face (face that you can never make in public) might help in relaxing facial muscles and thus help reduce stress.
  • Being sad: If you become sad, you seem to be not stressed. Let the stress make you sad and let it win. You seem to become untangled when you do it.
  • Being angry or yelling: If you can afford to be (if the situation and people permit), be angry or yell. It really helps.
  • Gazing: Gazing at any object and letting emotions flow.

Why Virat Kohli’s decision to quit captaincy spells trouble for BCCI

Virat Kohli relinquished test captaincy after the series loss to South Africa. The decision caught many people by surprise but to people who understand how Kohli works, this was hardly any surprise. Deep down I also knew that Kohli would step down regardless of the outcome of the series. Why? Because he lives life his own way. He knew that his test captaincy is going to get scrutinized the moment he was sacked from ODI captaincy. He knew that the trust was over. He took the decision not under the fear that he would be sacked but for giving the BCCI an opportunity to play another captain. For BCCI to prove themselves right. Now Kohli has put the ball in the BCCI’s court. Find a better leader if you can.

Now BCCI will be in a spot of bother. They have to search a leader now. And their search revolves largely around Rohit Sharma, KL Rahul and Jasprit Bumrah. As much as I am a fan of Rohit Sharma, I don’t think he is fit to be a test captain. Even his place in the playing eleven is contentious. He still has to prove himself as a test batsman and the kind of reckless shots he gets himself out through still poses questions on his evolution as a test batsman. He still appears naïve with his short selection let alone the technical shortcomings that he seems to have minimized but not completely overcome. In a nutshell, Rohit barely qualifies in the playing eleven. KL Rahul on the other hand seems to be riding high on good form, but captaincy is for people who have a proven track record. KL Rahul is enjoying an uptrend and he still has a long way to go before he wins the confidence that a country can place in a leader. Bumrah, let’s just say is a very good bowler, but captaincy “nah”.

What is the trouble for BCCI?

Regardless of how differently people want to read the decision of Virat kohli’s stepping down from captaincy, what is obvious is the fact that the relation between Virat Kohli and the BCCI has touched an unprecedented low. And that all the drama around Virat Kohli’s sacking led to this decision. Virat is not someone who takes things lying down. The moment he realized that his captaincy is not appreciated, he resigned.

What is up for the next captain?

It is trouble and a great opportunity. Whenever there is a leadership change, the new leader is expected to turn things around; more so when the change is so chaotic. The new leader has to do what Virat has failed to do and it’s so little that Virat has failed. That’s where the problem lies. The problem is that the decision to replace Virat Kohli as captain is doomed to fail as there is no one that is currently better than him. Now if under the new leadership, the team falters particularly overseas, BCCI will have to do some serious digging to find some saving grace. BCCI seemed to have hinted that the trouble lies with the captaincy and Kohli has given them an opportunity to fix it if they can.

Is the decision good for Indian cricket?

Absolutely not. At present Kohli is the only right person to lead the team in test cricket. With him gone, it’s just a compromise that we are making, and hope things turn out to be better. There is no logic, no metric that suggests replacing Kohli with anyone in test cricket as a captain can turn things around. If that happens, it is pure luck. Am not saying Kohli is irreplaceable, all that am simply saying is that he is the best. And you can sure replace the best, but it comes with a cost, and its not only BCCI that has to pay the price, it’s Indian Cricket too.

Also, read Virat Kohli and Ganguly Saga

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Why loners are the best people?

What is loneliness?

Loneliness is your mind saying to you that you do not want to be surrounded with people. It is a feeling of a social void that you have stumbled upon and that lingers and persists. Loneliness can make you sad or unempathetic (neutral). You may feel content with yourself as there are no social accomplishments that you strive for which can mean that there is nothing lacking. Loneliness can thus induce creativity, improve cognition as there are not many available templates that you derive these from (the templates that come from socializing). However, there is the downside of loneliness too. After all, this is a world where people interact with each other. People who have the ability to be around other people are more likely to live a happy life.

Why loners are at the top?

It is commonsensical that people who socialize more are more likely to succeed as they are good at leveraging other people. However, when it comes to leading people, more so in the manner of either outperforming, showing the way, or achieving breakthroughs, loners are ones. Interpersonal skills and man management skills in the modern world are highly overrated. It runs on the narrative that people management is the end goal which cannot be farther from the truth. Nobody hires a leader to make the people happy. And nobody should. A leader is the one who can be different from the masses. It is a great leadership loss when the leader is held hostage by the requirement of people skills. People management which is different from a leadership role should be viewed with a different lens. Modern management techniques have us wrongly thinking that people managers are the best managers and everyone else is an outlier who should be perished. Everyone is looking for a happy group even at the perils of under-performance. The recent news about Zoom employees layoff and Rohit Sharma replaces Virat Kohli from ODI captaincy underlines this prevalent notion.

Do we need more loners in the world?

If we want greatness, then yes. But then, loneliness is not something that you choose willingly in pursuit of something. It is not a tool that you can use. One can choose to be aloof and cut off from social circles to achieve an objective. But that is more of a sacrifice, a going-against-the-tide and not an intrinsic, natural act to disconnect without any goal. So, yes, sacrifice can also yield great success. And loners who have very less to sacrifice to begin with are likely already on the right track.

Do loners move to top or people become loners after moving to top?

Both ways. People do become loners after moving to top not more so because they become arrogant after tasting success. People become loners because the top is reserved for the loners and is a relatively lonely place. It is not a place which is crowded. The notion that people change after they become successful is flawed because it is the very nature of success. Success induces change and the success exists as long as the change exists. Human being simply hops from one situation to other and simply acclimatizes in the new situation.

Bottom line

Would want to repeat the same line.It is a great leadership loss when the leader is held hostage by the requirement of people skills. In the game of skills, let us not obsess over who is the most fun guy to be around.

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Remembering Irrfan Khan on his birth anniversary

Just realized that today is the birth anniversary of Irrfan Khan. The actor who broke boundaries and glass ceilings to become one of the most appreciated actors from both commercial and artistic aspect of movie-making. One of the few actors who got into Hollywood and did pivotal roles. An actor who could get into the skin of any character and own it. An actor who could play a rich evil businessman and a small village dacoit with equal panache. A man who uplifted small content-driven movies with his brilliance and helped them achieve commercial success. Irrfan Khan epitomized the success story of a struggling actor that Bollywood so loves to glorify when the success has been achieved. In fact, it is sort of a chain reaction when success fuels more success and then everyone embraces it to get their pie.

Irrfan starred in several epic movies such as Piku, Paan Singh Tomar, The Lunchbox, Haider and so on. Wherever he went, he left a deep impression by his subtle acting skills. Acting skills that were very unlike Bollywood (not to say that Bollywood has bad actors) in the sense that they were mellow (had a peculiarity) and never felt outlandish. Also, there appeared honesty and truthfulness in his characters that was marked by sheer lack of over-enthusiasm such as displayed by some of the newbies of Bollywood when they seem to think they are acting. He indeed was a breath of fresh air and was liked by people of all age group.

It’s not wrong to say that the actor got his due late and that when he was at the peak of his career, ready to enjoy the stardom, health caught up with him. In my heart of hearts, I feel that success was slow in catching him and that he should have been a success much before had he got the opportunities earlier or if we as audience were matured enough for good content and acting; and demanded it. After all, audience taste is what drives everything including the opportunities.

Now that when the man is not with us, let’s pray that India keeps creating such talent and that such talent finds its way to the top sooner. Also, let’s hope Bollywood and Indian Cinema keep recognizing such talent and give them the opportunity to display themselves to the world. I think that is all such a talent wants and something that it should rightly get.

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Virat Kohli and Ganguly Saga

Indian cricket seems to have got some issues. The latest episode between Virat Kohli and Sourav Ganguly has unnerved not only the team but has also sent chills to the cricket fans in India. In a rather surprising call, BCCI decided to sack Virat Kohli from the ODI captaincy. It was evident that Kohli wanted to continue as the ODI skipper but was not considered a right fit any longer by the BCCI. Later, Ganguly clarified that the decision to remove Kohli was to minimize the excessive leadership in white ball game. According to him, India would do good with one white ball and one red ball skipper. Some people did buy this reasoning; however, the reality is that the most successful white ball captain in Indian cricket has been removed because he hasn’t been able to win an ICC trophy.

Is Kohli sacking justified?

Kohli’s batting credentials are beyond question. However, there were murmurs that his leadership skills were not really appreciated by the group. Kohli is not a people man, and has never been a people man. He has been a warrior right from the day he made his debut. He wore his aggression on his sleeve and didn’t mind expressing himself on the field. He was and still is the angry young man of Indian cricket. A man who doesn’t know anything but perfection and chases it unabashedly. Behavioral correctness is something that didn’t feature in his manuscript of cricket or even life. He chased success like a true maverick at the cost of becoming the most disliked cricketer; and went beyond success. The world embodied this fierce attitude and celebrated it.

What is the problem now?

Is it the lack of ICC trophy or the increasing unacceptance of the erstwhile cherished attitude? The records suggest that Kohli is still the most successful ODI captain when you look at the numbers. And with the upcoming world cup to be scheduled in India, there is every chance that India would win it regardless of the leader. There were also few cricketers who were unhappy with the way they were treated or removed from the team. Kohli’s leadership credentials were questioned.

Is Rohit Sharma a good replacement?

Rohit, as a person is opposite of Kohli. Everything that Kohli embodies, Rohit disembodies. These two cricketers have polarized the Indian fraternity, from fans to BCCI. Kohli’s aggression versus Rohit’s calmness. Kohli’s belligerence versus Rohit’s friendliness. There had always been two choices with Indian cricket fans. Initially, BCCI and everyone in Indian cricket very rightly felt that Kohli would be a great leader. Kohli’s aggression and success fueled him to the post of captaincy. In a parallel one-day universe, Rohit became a great ODI batsman and a successful vice-captain. These two figures who were poles-apart worked sturdily to take Indian cricket to greater heights.

Why change in leadership?

As happens with everything, people tend to change sides, and switch beliefs and preferences. And when the other option looks equally good, they can go with it. Rohit’s anointment as ODI skipper is nothing more than a change in BCCI’s attitude and thinking as to what is right for the Indian Cricket. The reason for this change in attitude is however unknown. More than saying anything about Kohil’s leadership, which had always been a particular type (and successful), the decision to make Rohit Sharma skipper says more about the template of the Indian captain. BCCI has redefined how Indian captain should be like, and in that template Kohli probably doesn’t fit.

What Kohli should do?

Kohli is someone who has always stood out fearlessly. As a leader or not, he embodies an attitude that is responsible for making him who he is. He should continue to do what he does best. Play cricket in a manner that nobody has ever played. And am sure, he would do just that.

Also, see https://writesblog.in/2022/01/11/why-loners-are-the-best-people/

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What Sushant Singh Rajput’s death teaches us?


• That there are people who can take advantage of anything to further one’s agenda – Beware of them.


• That we are ignorant about mental health issues – Anyone can suffer from any problem.


• That we are a patriarchal society – Stop finding easy excuses or culprits. Go to the root of the issue. Things are not always as we want them to be.


• That we are strongly biased, and logic is the least used faculty – Apply logic and not instinct.


• That Bollywood has its share of problems – Bring reforms, structure, and have more acceptance towards everyone.


• That choosing to not react regardless of who you are is a personal choice – Don’t judge people for their personal choices.


• That choosing to react the way you do regardless of who you are is a personal choice – Don’t judge people for their personal choices.


• That not all celebrities or rich people are evil – Rich doesn’t mean evil.


• That not all general people are good – There are a lot of stupid people around us.


• That TV journalism (largely) is evil and agenda driven. – Don’t watch it.


• That we don’t respect the law and let it function – Trust your institutions, stop gossiping. If you have a different viewpoint, raise it objectively.


• That we enjoy drama and sensation – Curb this inner instinct.


• That we are essentially either blind followers or trolls – Stop that.


• That we love to hate – Stop that.


• That we need a tragedy to realize the value of a person or his talent – Appreciate talent at the right time. This is for the people who became Sushant Singh Rajput’s fan after his death.


• That we are always waiting for an opportunity to start hating people – Stop that.


• That we have some sort of inherent hatred for people who are successful than us – Get over it.


• That we love to make people fall – Don’t enjoy seeing people fall. Even if someone has done wrong and he or she gets her due, just be gracious that justice is done. Don’t enjoy that.


• That an unsuccessful person always thinks that he or she didn’t get what he or she deserved because of the flawed system – Stop blaming your failures on everything else except you. Maybe you were not good. Maybe others were better than you. Maybe you are meant for something else.


• That the system sometimes can actually be unfair – Maybe you were hard done. But then, never lose hope and constantly work to fix the systemic issue as per your ability.


• That you are more than what you become or what people know you for and all other shit – Just have a go at life and keep going.

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Who will win Big boss 14: Rubina Dilaik or Rahul Vaidya?

The Big boss season 14 is in its final leg. The two people who seem most likely to win the show are Rubina Dilaik and Rahul Vaidya. While Rubina Dilaik has appeared to be seen as a strong headed woman in the house who knows what is right and wrong, Rahul Vaidya is seen as someone who is emotional and slightly mellow. Both have displayed characteristics that are appealing to different senses.

Who is going to win Big boss 14?

Answering this question is difficult at this moment. Though I feel it’s Rubina Dilaik who has greater chances of winning the Big Boss. She seems to have captured the imagination of general public. She has a vocal personality and she is a great communicator. That is her strength as well as her weakness. She has kept herself open in the show in terms of sharing her turbulent relationship and also wore her dominant personality on her sleeve.

Who should win Big boss14?

I would want Rahul Vaidya to be the winner of Big Boss 14. He seems to be more correct to me than Rubina Dilaik. When I say correct, I don’t mean about being real or being expressive, or being outspoken. I think both Rubina Dilaik and Rahul Vaidya have been good at expressing themselves, it’s just that Rahul Vaidya is more behaviorally correct.

What do you mean by being behaviorally correct?

Everyone knows that Rubina Dilaik has impeccable communication skills. However, the problem is that she thinks having great communication skills is the key to solving all the problems in life. She fails to understand that understanding someone and being able to set aside your ego are bigger virtues than communication. That, I think is the primary reason she has problems in her personal life too.

What does the winner of Big boss 14 tell us about the audience preference?

Aside from the fact that the voting is driven largely by their followers, who blindly follow them, if people genuinely vote for Rubina Dilaik, it once again proves that we value communication over everything else. Communication which is just a tool to conduct yourself takes precedence over who you actually are. Appearing to be correct is more important than being actually correct. A strong personality is more appealing than an average personality. Nobody bothers to seek underneath the exterior. Nobody wants to study further.

Is Rubina Dialik suffering from superiority complex?

I don’t think having a superiority complex is a problem. It is when you make people feel inferior is when you are going wrong. Rubina Dilaik is very comfortable with words and has an enviable vocabulary. When she puts her point across, it is usually loaded with wisdom that she may have gathered in her life. Obviously, people who don’t have the gift of gab, might think of her having superiority complex. So, it might be wrong at times to say that she has a superiority complex. The actual problem is using a rich communication to justify a plain wrong. That she often does. It is like using your favorite tool, that you are so good at, even when it is not required, and when it simply won’t work. Its like using a sword every time when a needle would do the job rather. This puts thinking people off.

Is Rahul Vaidya a deserving winner of big boss 14?

Among the current lot, yes, he is. He might have gone out of the house in a weak moment, but he has shown good game throughout. Moreover, like I said, he is behaviorally correct. He has made good relationships in the house, but the problem is again of personality. He is not as strong as Rubina Dilaik. He doesn’t have the personal problems that make people root for him. To put it simply, his journey is not as dramatic as that of Rubina Dilaik. And I fear, people like drama more than simplicity.

Do you think Big boss is just a show where people are not real, and you can’t make any assumptions about their personality based on what they do in the show?

First things first, Big boss is not scripted. It is a show where different people are put together in a house and yes there is a price money, so their behavior is tuned towards this larger objective of winning the price amount. But real life is also like that, you always want to win something (money, growth, respect, promotion, pride, ego etc.), and our behavior is always, even though subconsciously, driven towards achieving this goal. Big boss simply makes this objective clearer. The people who are in the show and the way they behave is exactly how they would behave when they are out of the show, if put in a difficult situation. Big boss can be a very good lesson in sociology where you know how people can behave when the stakes are high. Didn’t you see people fighting when they tried hoarding for sanitizers, and toilet rolls when COVID 19 was at its peak. Those were very sane people with sane minds put in a tough situation. We don’t call that scripted right?

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