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What Sushant Singh Rajput’s death teaches us?


• That there are people who can take advantage of anything to further one’s agenda – Beware of them.


• That we are ignorant about mental health issues – Anyone can suffer from any problem.


• That we are a patriarchal society – Stop finding easy excuses or culprits. Go to the root of the issue. Things are not always as we want them to be.


• That we are strongly biased, and logic is the least used faculty – Apply logic and not instinct.


• That Bollywood has its share of problems – Bring reforms, structure, and have more acceptance towards everyone.


• That choosing to not react regardless of who you are is a personal choice – Don’t judge people for their personal choices.


• That choosing to react the way you do regardless of who you are is a personal choice – Don’t judge people for their personal choices.


• That not all celebrities or rich people are evil – Rich doesn’t mean evil.


• That not all general people are good – There are a lot of stupid people around us.


• That TV journalism (largely) is evil and agenda driven. – Don’t watch it.


• That we don’t respect the law and let it function – Trust your institutions, stop gossiping. If you have a different viewpoint, raise it objectively.


• That we enjoy drama and sensation – Curb this inner instinct.


• That we are essentially either blind followers or trolls – Stop that.


• That we love to hate – Stop that.


• That we need a tragedy to realize the value of a person or his talent – Appreciate talent at the right time. This is for the people who became Sushant Singh Rajput’s fan after his death.


• That we are always waiting for an opportunity to start hating people – Stop that.


• That we have some sort of inherent hatred for people who are successful than us – Get over it.


• That we love to make people fall – Don’t enjoy seeing people fall. Even if someone has done wrong and he or she gets her due, just be gracious that justice is done. Don’t enjoy that.


• That an unsuccessful person always thinks that he or she didn’t get what he or she deserved because of the flawed system – Stop blaming your failures on everything else except you. Maybe you were not good. Maybe others were better than you. Maybe you are meant for something else.


• That the system sometimes can actually be unfair – Maybe you were hard done. But then, never lose hope and constantly work to fix the systemic issue as per your ability.


• That you are more than what you become or what people know you for and all other shit – Just have a go at life and keep going.

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Who will win Big boss 14: Rubina Dilaik or Rahul Vaidya?

The Big boss season 14 is in its final leg. The two people who seem most likely to win the show are Rubina Dilaik and Rahul Vaidya. While Rubina Dilaik has appeared to be seen as a strong headed woman in the house who knows what is right and wrong, Rahul Vaidya is seen as someone who is emotional and slightly mellow. Both have displayed characteristics that are appealing to different senses.

Who is going to win Big boss 14?

Answering this question is difficult at this moment. Though I feel it’s Rubina Dilaik who has greater chances of winning the Big Boss. She seems to have captured the imagination of general public. She has a vocal personality and she is a great communicator. That is her strength as well as her weakness. She has kept herself open in the show in terms of sharing her turbulent relationship and also wore her dominant personality on her sleeve.

Who should win Big boss14?

I would want Rahul Vaidya to be the winner of Big Boss 14. He seems to be more correct to me than Rubina Dilaik. When I say correct, I don’t mean about being real or being expressive, or being outspoken. I think both Rubina Dilaik and Rahul Vaidya have been good at expressing themselves, it’s just that Rahul Vaidya is more behaviorally correct.

What do you mean by being behaviorally correct?

Everyone knows that Rubina Dilaik has impeccable communication skills. However, the problem is that she thinks having great communication skills is the key to solving all the problems in life. She fails to understand that understanding someone and being able to set aside your ego are bigger virtues than communication. That, I think is the primary reason she has problems in her personal life too.

What does the winner of Big boss 14 tell us about the audience preference?

Aside from the fact that the voting is driven largely by their followers, who blindly follow them, if people genuinely vote for Rubina Dilaik, it once again proves that we value communication over everything else. Communication which is just a tool to conduct yourself takes precedence over who you actually are. Appearing to be correct is more important than being actually correct. A strong personality is more appealing than an average personality. Nobody bothers to seek underneath the exterior. Nobody wants to study further.

Is Rubina Dialik suffering from superiority complex?

I don’t think having a superiority complex is a problem. It is when you make people feel inferior is when you are going wrong. Rubina Dilaik is very comfortable with words and has an enviable vocabulary. When she puts her point across, it is usually loaded with wisdom that she may have gathered in her life. Obviously, people who don’t have the gift of gab, might think of her having superiority complex. So, it might be wrong at times to say that she has a superiority complex. The actual problem is using a rich communication to justify a plain wrong. That she often does. It is like using your favorite tool, that you are so good at, even when it is not required, and when it simply won’t work. Its like using a sword every time when a needle would do the job rather. This puts thinking people off.

Is Rahul Vaidya a deserving winner of big boss 14?

Among the current lot, yes, he is. He might have gone out of the house in a weak moment, but he has shown good game throughout. Moreover, like I said, he is behaviorally correct. He has made good relationships in the house, but the problem is again of personality. He is not as strong as Rubina Dilaik. He doesn’t have the personal problems that make people root for him. To put it simply, his journey is not as dramatic as that of Rubina Dilaik. And I fear, people like drama more than simplicity.

Do you think Big boss is just a show where people are not real, and you can’t make any assumptions about their personality based on what they do in the show?

First things first, Big boss is not scripted. It is a show where different people are put together in a house and yes there is a price money, so their behavior is tuned towards this larger objective of winning the price amount. But real life is also like that, you always want to win something (money, growth, respect, promotion, pride, ego etc.), and our behavior is always, even though subconsciously, driven towards achieving this goal. Big boss simply makes this objective clearer. The people who are in the show and the way they behave is exactly how they would behave when they are out of the show, if put in a difficult situation. Big boss can be a very good lesson in sociology where you know how people can behave when the stakes are high. Didn’t you see people fighting when they tried hoarding for sanitizers, and toilet rolls when COVID 19 was at its peak. Those were very sane people with sane minds put in a tough situation. We don’t call that scripted right?

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Battleground twitter

When twitter first came to India, it was just a microblogging site. Though it still is that, technically speaking, but it has assumed far greater importance in our communications, then we initially assumed it would. Initially it was just a fun site for connections and light banter. People thronged the site to share one liners and cool excerpts. The very small word limit made the messages precise and easily consumable. It was a happy social space.

What happened now?

With the influx of celebrities and political bigwigs, twitter became a conversation domain where emotions were expressed vividly. The fans, the trolls, the neutrals everyone flooded twitter with the intention of getting heard. Every communication now definitely finds its way on twitter. It gets magnified either for good or bad.

What exactly is the problem?

Twitter is just a medium. Let’s understand it. Like any other medium, people might use it for good or bad. The way we censor and penalize bad behavior in real world, we must do it on twitter too. However, there is something called “freedom” that we all, so freely enjoy, something that we must continue to enjoy in our expression. Blanket bans on accounts that seem unaligned to a majoritarian view must not be the only criterion on blocking the accounts.

So, what is the solution?

The solution is simple. We must restrain accounts that are in violation of the law of the land and let the acceptable dissent flow. We must not tarnish a larger movement, regardless of its merit, because of the fringes. It’s the weed that we should remove and not the crop. Remember weed grows regardless of a thing being good or bad.

Are the conversations on twitter real or manufactured?

Both. It might be organic or manufactured. However, none of it is a problem till it’s in violation of the law of the land and poses security threat. A manufactured dissent will die its own death as it won’t find any takers in the long run and because people are not really committed for it. The moment these people will switch off their phone, they will go back to who they were. If it is organic, it will flourish outside twitter too and reach the masses.

Why celebrities are silent? Is it justified?

Celebrities have influence and they can take stand. So, should they do so? Are they morally bound? To answer this question, we first need to understand, why we want them to speak up. We want it because we feel that they can steer the vehicle toward a particular direction which we feel is the right one. We think that they fear the repercussions, and that is the reason they are not speaking up. If we protect them from the backlash, they would be happy to speak up. This is what we think. This might be partially true, but what if the polarization itself is not real, if the hate itself is not real, if everything is orchestrated with a design that has a short shelf life. If there is no genuine problem, then there is nothing that needs to be fixed. If you know that it is all for a show, and you are not interested in the show, then you might not want to be a part of it.

Can people boycott the celebrities and bring down their large empires?

I don’t think that it is true. This can be a social media phenomenon where people can dislike a particular video or unfollow a celebrity if he appears to take a particular stand that’s against a majoritarian view. However, we need to understand that the real fan base remains loyal throughout. I haven’t encountered one individual who said he earlier liked someone but now dislikes him on account of his views. You will eventually be liked for your work than anything else.

Okay, real fan base won’t go, but what about young susceptible minds? Will a star loose out on new potential fans because of specific views?

There are no susceptible minds. People are smart. You need to understand the conversations that are happening in the ground in every household. Whenever a person is saying a particular view is correct, there is another view that says otherwise. So, there is a sane and thorough debate going on at the very root level. Don’t think people simply consume what comes from the top.

But there must be multiple views that come from the top for general people to analyze the pros and cons properly right? If one view is heavily propounded, the other view simply loses the game.

That is partially true. That’s why it is also important to speak up. But this is a larger point of diverse democratic conversations that should come from Journalism and politics. People should take part in it, but it’s these institutions that hold the responsibly of keeping the conversation pure and unbiased. And I still feel even if the correct view is less spoken, it still makes itself obvious and people understand it. Such is the nature of the truth. It eventually gets you. But we do need equal space for all views.

Would you request celebreties to speak more?

It’s totally their prerogative.

Can people ride the social media wave by aligning themselves with a particular view for their own benefit?

They can try. However, it wouldn’t last long. it’s very difficult to take the love and hate of social media very seriously. A like in your twitter post would not translate into the person liking the post seeing your movie. He might be liking the post out of fun or compulsion, who knows. Even if the person is genuinely liking your post, he might like you for your views, but hate you for your work. That can also happen.

So, what is the final solution?

Have more democratic conversations. Give space to other views. Allow dissent. Allow multiple viewpoints to flourish, so that everyone can form their own opinion.

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